This year’s Special Olympics has come and gone.
The two day event went a little differently this year. For
starters, it was the first year I didn’t get time off from work to watch the
competitions. Puppy wasn’t too happy about that and even voiced that he didn’t
want to participate, in his words, “I don’t want to go outside today.” I was
hoping that after his morning call to my sister on Wednesday, he would get his
pep talk and be convinced to get on the bus, go to school and change into his
uniform for the events. Luckily, it pretty much happened that way. His teacher
wasn’t going to let him sulk or stay in the classroom alone while they all went
to the field.
On the first day of the Special Olympics, he did fine at the 50 meter run. In pictures that were taken by another classmate's mom, I see he was
grouped with 4 other kids, him being the tallest and biggest. I think those
little runners had an advantage over him…just saying. He didn’t place and came
in 4th or 5th.
It was it long day in the sun for Puppy though. His after
school routine was changed, too. He was dropped off at my parents’ house after
school. My sister was there and asked if I would like her to take him with her
to my brother and his wife’s house until I got out from work so I wouldn’t have
to deviate further from my route home. I got there and he greeted me like he usually
does. He was excited to tell me about his day at the Olympics and how he ran as
fast as he could to get his ribbon.
I sat down on the sofa to visit with my sister, my nephews
and niece. Puppy on the other hand, was ready to go home. When I told him we’d
leave in a while he didn’t like it, but waited. My brother got there, then my
sister-in-law, and so I was catching up with them as well. By now Puppy was
even more bored and asking to leave again. My sister-in-law asked us to stay
for supper, but still…Puppy wanted to leave. When I said to him we’d leave
after we ate, he took a deep breath and walked to another room and screamed he
was going to bit himself if we didn’t leave. I told him soon, let’s eat first.
And he took his hand to mouth and bit down as hard as he could. His braces left
a terrible mark and open wounds on the backside of his right-hand. He started
yelling, “I bit myself hard!” “It hurts!” I went and found him sitting on the
bed crying with his hand in the air. Puppy’s first response was he’s sorry. He
knew it wasn’t good behavior and figured I’d be angry. I was, but it was done.
My instinct is to comfort him. It may not be the right thing because generally
it was giving him attention. But as I saw it, my attention did not reward him
and we were not leaving. Instead, I did comfort and his wound was cared for
with ointment and a band-aid; and we walked to the kitchen to eat.
I read his face and saw embarrassment. But he tried to make
small talk with others just the same. By this time Ms. H had arrived to meet
with us for the evening. He sought her undivided attention for a while before
asking to go outdoors. He was fine for the remainder of the evening. This was the end of day one.
What caused his tantrum? I will never know. I can take
guesses. I can speculate. But Puppy has autism and can’t tell me himself why he
turned to self-injury. Something triggered it, but looking for attention was
not it, because attention does not take him to another location like he wanted.
He wanted to go home and probably wanted some of this day to have routine to it
and ultimately…none of this day was familiar or routine to him.
Puppy is doing well now and looks down at his hand. “Why did
I do this, mom?” I don’t have an answer.